I know a guy who has a filter made of tightly woven steel. He’s nice to everyone, even the people he doesn’t like. Sometimes, I aspire to be like him. Other times, I give up, and I stick true to myself.
I had the privilege of becoming intoxicated with this tall person this weekend, and I think I told him how he affects my daily life. When I think of saying something to someone, I ask myself “is this something that ___ would do?” And if it isn’t, I rethink my plan of attack. For example, I wrote and trashed three different blog posts today. This weekend was a stressful one, and I tried to handle it as best I could. So after writing each post, I reread it, and thought “No, this is too transparent. People I know read this blog. This is not nice.” And then I deleted it.
I don’t know if I would do the same thing if I didn’t know him. He’s quieter than most about his opinions, and I don’t think I’ve ever heard him complaining about anything. Ever. That’s an impressive feat, and I wish I could be like that. I aspire to be as nice as this guy is. Simultaneously so considerate and so hilariously awesome and talented…the list goes on, but it’s really his humility and how he deals with other people that really hits me as spectacular. Without even knowing it, he pushes me to be better than I am.
This has nothing to do with the topic post today, but have some Canadian indie music that I recently came across: Chris Ho. I love the smattering of brass he’s got in there, and his voice is damn fine. Enjoy, and remember to be nice to people. It’s impressive.
© Emily Bragg 2013